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Summer 2015 Recap

Goodbye-Summer

Looking back, it occurs to me that I haven’t been very good at updating this year. Summer has gone by in a whirlwind, and that doesn’t always leave time for blogging. So I thought I’d do a re-cap. I see abandoned blogs all the time, and though I understand how life gets in the way, it’s always sad to see a blog just kind of stop. Rest assured, that’s not what’s happening here – it may take a while, but I usually do come back and update! We’re still here; we’re still homeschooling.

The last real update was in March, with our homeschool group’s science fair. The kids worked hard on their projects, and it was a lot of fun to put together and participate in. That was our group’s biggest science fair to date, which was awesome. Our homeschool group usually meets every week, but this summer was so incredibly hot that a lot of our usual events (like the talent show) that normally take place outside got canceled with plans to reschedule when the weather was cooler. That left us with a lot of free time, which we put to good use!

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Our group chooses a charity organization to work with each year. It’s somewhat difficult to fin organizations that will work with kids; most places (for liability reasons) want volunteers to be 16 or 18 to work with them. We’ve been fortunate in that many of the organizations we’ve approached have worked with us to find ways that our kids can help without violating their guidelines. Habitat for Humanity is one that we very much enjoyed working with this year – not only because it exposed the kids to seeing how much progress a group could make in a short amount of time, but also for the fellowship and diversity of the volunteers. Our kids weren’t allowed to work on-site; in fact for safety, while we were there, no work could be done at all while our students were on the property. Our kids got to help serve lunch and visit with the volunteers while they took their lunch break.

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Here’s another, with actual blue sky peeking through.  friend of ours snagged this and applied some filters to it that made our beach look much prettier than it really is!

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This is from the Galveston Pleasure Pier’s Homeschool Day. We met some friends that we haven’t seen in a while and the kids had a blast!

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Here’s a shot of some of the teens from our homeschool group. We’ve had an influx of older kids this year, which is nice. Most homeschoolers ted to either phase out for high school, or stop coming because many groups tend to focus on the younger years. We plan to homeschool throughout high school, so having a group of older kids definitely helps with social time.

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Beach again!

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Being in Texas, summer isn’t complete without a crawfish boil! Our friends celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary with lots of mudbugs and tasty beer. The kids ‘rescued’ some of the creepy-crawlers (at least until it came time to cook ’em!!) and went fishing.

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This is probably the most ‘formal’ picture we’ll ever have – Loverly Husband and I were in a wedding over the summer and so we all got dressed up.



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4th of July! The happily wedded couple from above is in the center. Our Independence Day celebration was more modest this year than in previous years, but many fireworks were set off and much fun was had!

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You know what makes a ‘slip-n-slide’ even better? BUBBLES! My brother-in-law rigged up a foam machine and we took it to the country for an evening out. By the time we were finished, the entire yard was a foot deep in foam!

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This was a good summer for the lake, too – we went to visit some friends and spent a day on the water in late July.

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The first Saturday in August is another ‘family tradition’ – our annual canoe trip.

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Our homeschool group has hosted a public speaking group class every month for the summer (with plans to continue this school year). A couple of kids are missing, but this is our most recent group picture!

We actually didn’t take a long summer break this year. We had a lot of wedding stuff mid-summer, so we did take a couple of weeks off around that time, but overall, we’ve been hitting the books pretty regularly all year. I did post a ‘back to school’ previously, so we’re already well into our first semester of the new school year, but it’s so hard to say exactly ‘when’ it started because there isn’t really a break that defines it. It’s taken me a long time to learn to be okay with that ambiguity.

Hope your summer was fantastic!
Warmly,
~h

Not Back to School 2015-2016

Holy backpacks, Batman! It’s NBTS!!

We tend to school throughout the summer, with various breaks as needed, rather than following a strict schedule. We used to  – and have tried different schedules over the years. It all works out to about the same amount of class-time, so now I pretty much just plan on school and we break if we need to. We actually started this ‘grade’ a few weeks ago. We’re in week 5 now.

If you’re new to homeschooling, check out the NBTS Blog Hop, sponsored by iHomeschooling Network. It’s a link-up by lots of different homeschooling bloggers. It’s not strictly secular, but there’s something for everyone, and no matter what your personal views, I think it’s always cool to see how others ‘do’ homeschool.

As usual, I’m late on this… somehow, it started way back in July and I am just now catching up. But, as my mama always said, better to arrive late than unprepared! (Well, she said ‘ugly’, but that doesn’t really apply here.) They’ve changed it up a bit from previous years. The ‘used curriculum week’ is new, and useful! I love used curriculum; it’s a great way to homeschool on the thrifty side, as well as try new things without dropping a ton of money into something you may or may not like or use. If you do want to sell, or buy inexpensive/used materials, there are homeschool-specific buy-sell-trade groups on Facebook, like ‘Homeschool Buy Sell Trade‘. There are also state or local area-specific groups that you can join.

Curriculum week is one of my favorites. We don’t switch things up as much as we used to; we’ve been at this long enough to find our niche and to know what works and what doesn’t. My boys are in 7th and 8th grade this year. Here’s a quick look at what we’re using this year.

  • Math – Pre_Algebra review with Kuta Software online as a spine with Khan Academy videos to explain concepts I can’t. Core Skills Math: Grade 8 and Algebra Warm-Ups (7+)
  • ScienceMiddle School Science Education – Nebel
  • History & Geography; Current EventsStory of the World 4 (plus Activity Book and  lapbook), Timeline, various Artist, Composer, World Religion and other unit studies as needed/desired; CNN Student News (note-taking & discussion; research as needed; hasn’t started for this school year yet); Unit Studies centered on World Events/Holidays, etc. as needed or desired
  • Grammar, Writing, Penmanship & SpellingDiagramming Sentences (review), Project-Based Writing 6-8, Spectrum Word Study & Phonics 6, weekly spelling list of 10 words & exercises (test on Fridays); weekly essay writing, daily handwriting/dictation drills
  • Reading & Literature – Novel unit studies; daily reading assignment & note-taking
  • Logic/Research – games, brain teasers, research project, computer coding, foreign language, areas of individual study/interest
  • Arts, PE & Health – art projects (usually monthly based on concept), encourage individual study; daily walks; playing with our dog, Max; daily workout routine (20 min cardio daily, plus target strength training)
  • Field trips, Activism & Community Service – weekly educationally aligned field trips with our homeschool group; once-a-month community service project or activity. Activism opportunities as available.

We don’t do every subject every day, and sometimes, the task for a subject is less time-consuming than others. Math, for example, has been a lot of fairly easy review over the past few weeks. I don’t mind re-covering concepts, because we’ll be needing them as we move into more complicated maths. I tend to lump History together with Geography and Current Events – we only cover one chapter per week in SOTW4, so there’s plenty of time in the week to cover a geography lesson or work on a unit study. We also tend to do either science or history on a given day. News, we cover daily, usually at breakfast for discussion.

I am forever asked about school year planning and about my planner. I will do a separate post about planning the year out later, but with my planner, I do a couple of different things. The bulk of my planner is something that I designed. I really wasn’t happy with commercial lesson planners, or even most of the available homeschool planners, so I worked on it for a while to figure out what worked best for me. I have all of the previous, and current blank versions of my various planners available for free download (including a student planner) on the printables page. Something I’ve added to my planner is a downloadable planner page from Passion Planner. With my work picking up, this was exactly the thing I needed to help me keep up with multiple areas of my life. I printed and taped or stapled the PP pages into the middle of the current week for now as a trial to see if it works for me. I do like it, so when I print it again, I will add it into the binding.

That gives me essentially a 4-page week; on the first page is a weekly overview, school curriculum notes, child-specific notes, meal planning and short ‘to-do’ list. Page 2 is  Monday – Wednesday, with ‘this week’s focus’ and a gratitude journal section, plus personal and work priorities. Page 3 is Thurs – Sunday, with a doddle/journal section at the bottom, and the final page is for this week’s field trip information and the kids’ actual assigned work for this week. The tabs are downloads from Scattered Squirrel; binder clips and washi tape are from either office or craft supplies stores. I print my planner every year, in December, and have it spiral bound at a local print shop. I usually include other things in the binding as well – interview sheets for the kids to keep up with their interests by year; homeschool laws in my state, pages for blog planning, craft planning and other note-taking. I also have a section for things that I feel like help me be a better parent and teacher – personality profiles, mindfulness tools, communication tips, and things like that. Here’s what this week looks like so far:

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Cover, Pages 1 & 2 (top), and pages 3 and 4 (bottom)

Our school room is the same as ever. We are fortunate to have a dedicated room to school; it’s our ‘office’ of sorts. All of the computers are in the school room, along with my desk (which houses both school, work and art). My Loverly Husband is all about the PC Master Race, so he spends a lot of time in here as well. It’s pretty much the ‘hub’ of our home. It’s not super pretty, and is forever in a state of being ‘decluttered’ (I tend to work best in a state of controlled chaos), but it’s worked for years. We’ve gone through phases of being more and less enamored with actually working in here (largely dictated by temperatures), but we always come back to it, it seems. We have two big slate chalkboards that we use daily, and flip pads/anchor charts in here and in the kitchen… school isn’t confined to one room when we’re working. I just try to keep most of it in here so our house isn’t totally over-run, but there’s definitely a ‘homeschool chic’ vibe to the decor.

The ‘Eyes of the Student’ week used to be ‘Student Picture Week’ or something like that. I don’t mind sharing our pictures; we took them today for this very post! I make student ID cards for my kids every year, so they needed updated pictures for this year anyway. Here’s how they look – the info and colors just get updated every year. I also get them laminated. The kids carry them in their wallets. I’ve heard horror stories about harassment of homeschoolers if they’re out without a parent nearby, but we’ve never experienced anything like that. All the same, my kids know their rights, and we’ve spoken at length about ‘what to do if’.

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I’ve added an editable word.docx that you can download and use to create cards of your own. It’s fully editable, so you can add features you want and delete those you don’t. There’s a student ID, an educator ID, and the medical release for the back sides of the student card. homeschool ID cards BLANK

And here’s this year’s school picture:

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The last 2 prompts are ‘day in the life’ posts. I’ve done a DITL from my perspective before, but it’s been a while so I’ll work on doing it again. I haven’t ever done a school day POV from the kids though – sounds fun. We’ll try that soon.

How’s your school year starting out?
Warmly,
~h

The Homeschooling Spectrum

10526176_10152691965351404_1599779552232524066_n If you’re new to homeschooling, you may not realize just how diverse the concept of ‘homeschooling’ can be. This graphic has been popping up on homeschooling boards fairly often lately, and I wanted to share it and talk a bit about it, because I think it is a relatively decent simple breakdown of what homeschooling might look like for individual families.

No two homeschooling families will look exactly alike, even if they’re using the same materials. That whole concept is kind of weird, because schools do look very similar, no matter where you’re at geographically, or what age your kids are, or what materials they’re using. In fact, even with completely different materials, ‘school’ in a brick-and-mortar school often looks practically identical to another B&M school. This generalization excludes ‘alternative’ schools like Montessori, Waldorf and others, which are based in different educational philosophies (in fact, many homeschooling families base their methods on similar concepts), but overall, ‘public’ schools look very, very similar.

I’ve been wanting to talk about the difference between homeschooling and ‘school at home’, which is the Red section on the chart, and encompasses things like ‘virtual academies’ that are hosted by states or local ISDs. I may rustle some feathers for saying this, but if you’re Red, then you’re not really ‘homeschooling’. Hear me out – what I mean by that is that you’re missing out on the entire point of being outside the B&M structure of/and traditional education model. Yes, you might be at home, but you’re still dealing with much of the same stress and hassle of B&M schooling, and getting none of the freedom and enjoyment of ‘real’ homeschooling. Not to mention that in some ways, you’re still buying into the ideas that traditional education have drilled into our culture (like testing and grades and grade-levels, rather than focusing on mastery before progressing).

Having said that, Red isn’t all bad. Red has its place in the homeschooling spectrum, and isn’t without advantages. Red can be a necessary stepping stone towards ideas that more fully encompass what homeschooling can really be like. Red is safe, and provides a lot of structure and reassurance for newbie homeschoolers who are hesitant to take the leap into full-on homeschooling. Red is awesome for kids who need to be outside of the classroom but have parents who genuinely don’t want to homeschool, and for kids who just need a lot of structure. Red is a good option for families who live in areas where there is a lack of support for homeschooling in general. Red is also great for families who encounter a lot of opposition from extended family or friends, or for those who know their own strengths and weaknesses, and despite a genuine desire to be otherwise, know that without such a strict outside structure they would end up ‘not schooling’. And then there are some families who choose Red because that’s what they’re comfortable with, and that’s cool, too.

Orange is pretty similar to Red; I don’t see a lot of difference between the two, really. Maybe the difference is more a mental shift than a visible one. That’s actually a pretty big deal. That’s the first step towards stepping outside the box. Even if it doesn’t show in your day-to-day schooling interactions with your kids, that switch in thinking is key if you want to move into a different color. It can be as simple as switching to a 4 day school week, or starting at 10AM instead of 8. Small steps, but important ones!

Yellow is pretty much the middle. Yellow is still parent-led, which is great for young children who are coming out of B&M schools who are used to a lot of direction, or for children who started out in Indigo or Purple and Mom feels like it’s time to add some structure. Yellow is great for socially active homeschool group participation, and for control-freak parents (like me). We started out in Yellow, and it was a really good place for us when we were there. Yellow requires a bit more parental prep, because you’re not necessarily using a boxed curriculum – you may be researching different resources to use for different subjects, and it takes time to plan. But overall, Yellow is a nice ‘middle of the road’ option.

Green and blue kind of go together in my mind, probably because that’s where we are now. We do a lot of field trips, some project-based learning, a lot of note/lap-booking, and still use some structured curriculum. But we also have more child-led learning (interest-based) than we used to because since my kids are older now, we’re tailoring to career paths and personal interests. We have a lot of flexibility with scheduling, and I trust my kids to do what they need to. For us, this was a system of more parental control, lessened as their responsibility grows. It might look much different for another family.

Indigo and Purple also merge together for me, but that’s very likely because I don’t have a lot of experience with them and have a hard time differentiating between the two. I’ve seen Indigo and Purple very well done, and I’ve seen it as an excuse for no schooling at all. I’m sure that colors my perception of child-led learning (or delight-led) and unschooling (which is what those colors represent) in practice, but I know that it can be a very good option for some kids/families. I’m Unschooled. Yes, I can Write is a blog that I’ve been following for years, and she’s a great example (and advocate) of unschooling as a successful model of education. I also have a couple of friends who successfully employed unschooling, and have seen it work (for both young children and teens/young adults).

I absolutely don’t want to give the impression that the chart is a ladder of sorts that people work their way from Red to Violet – it’s not about that at all. But stepping outside of the Red zone, even into Orange or Yellow, is so liberating! I’m sure people who are in the indigo/violet area would say the same thing to someone like me; it’s all about perspective!

Like I said, we started out in yellow, and have moved into the green/blue area. I am deeply attracted to indigo & violet, but feel equally like I know that they just won’t work for us and am afraid/lack faith or trust in the process. I generally need more structure than that, and I feel like my kids need more direction than those areas provide. I fully reserve the right to change my mind about that, but that’s how I feel right now. The truth is, green/blue is comfortable to me. I don’t feel the need to change it, because it works for us. We still get a ‘backbone’ for things to hinge on, but we also have a lot of freedom. And with my unpredictable work schedule, green/blue lets me work without feeling like I am sacrificing school in the process.

Ultimately, it’s up to each family to figure out where they fall in the spectrum (or, for that matter, if they want to let something like ‘the spectrum’ define them). Many families start out in one color and move to another, either gradually or by circumstance or by deliberate choice. Some families move down the spectrum, while others move up it. Homeschooling is such an individual thing – some families use one method with one kid and another method with their other child(ren).

However you choose to homeschool, make the most of it! Spend time with your kids, stop and see the sights in your town that you have never had time for… make the most out of the time you have with them. It goes by *so* fast! Enjoy it.

Warmly,
~h

 

 

 

 

 

Science Fair 2015

Once again, it’s science fair season in the homeschool world! It’s odd to me that in our area, the public schools all have their science fairs in the fall, but the homeschooling ones  here are all in the spring. Personally, I prefer that time frame; it seems like the fall is all about getting back into routines and then stalling out for the holidays, but in the spring, there’s tons of time and everything is running smoothly. Maybe that’s just my perception, but I’m glad we get to wait until spring!

This year, our local homeschool group is hosting a non-competitive science fair. We have done competitions in the past, but they’re not really ‘fair’ considering the wide age gap among our students. A non-competitive fair lets everyone participate, with different levels of participation. Some students do the traditional results board outlining their projects, others do their projects and experiments at home and just do a presentation, while others do a family project instead of individual ones. We like the variety and options that this model allows us. We always try to plan our group science fair early so that those who want to go on to compete can participate in the Texas Regional Science Fair in Tomball.

This year, the boys are both doing individual projects, with display boards.

PeaGreen: Hydrophobic Sand

PeaGreen’s project is answering the question, ‘Can you use household products to make hydrophobic sand?’. We saw some on TV and he decided he could make some.

I was pretty happy with his choice, and his enthusiasm for this project. We had some decorative sand from a previous project, so it truly was a ‘household product’ experiment. He chose 6 products to test, and a seventh portion of the sand as the control, including hairspray, WD40, and cooking spray. We made a chart for him to use to test his results, and took lots of pictures.

 

 

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LBB: Do Dogs Understand English?

LBB loves his dog, so he’s always on the lookout for something he can do that involves our Max. We came across an interesting premise – that dogs don’t actually understand the words you use, rather, they’re conditioned to tone of voice. So he was all over deciding to test that theory.

My brother and his family recently moved next door to us, bringing their fantastic boxer, June, who has become Max’s very best friend, so LBB had two dogs to test his theory on. He used words that sound similar to commands the dogs already knew, like ‘sit’ and ‘lay’, instead saying ‘spit’ and ‘hit’ and ‘play’ and ‘fray’.  He also tested other words that didn’t sound the same, but said them in the same tone of voice. He was supposed to get pictures, but he had his hands full and it’s been cold out, so this mommy was lazy and didn’t venture out for photography duty (bad mommy).

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Our science fair was at a local state park, and we had a really great turn out from our homeschool group!

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In other news, my sister has been playing with face-paint quite a bit lately, and convinced the kids to let her do them up, comic-book style. Don’t they look great?! I love that Fred’s tee shirt is in a similar theme.

 

 

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Trying to stay warm,

~h

Penmanship & Writing Helpers

Handwriting is one of those things that I’ve gone round and round with my kids over, for basically the entire time we’ve been homeschooling. It’s not that they aren’t capable of writing neatly; more that they get in a hurry and rush through it. I’m a stickler for legibility, and we focus pretty heavily on writing, especially now that they’re in middle school, so I really do need it to be a skill they master.

Over the years, we’ve tried various methods for improving penmanship, none being particularly helpful (other than the old standard of ‘practice, practice’ practice’). We’ve gone through 2 workbooks of Handwriting Without Tears, tried pre-writing hand warm-up exercises, ‘ZOOM‘ technique, and used tons of practice worksheets, used grid paper and Mead’s Redi-Space notebooks, tried note-taking in various forms – I think we’ve done fairly well at ferreting out all of the tricks of the trade, and to give credit where credit is due, all of these things have helped. I have definitely seen improvements – vast improvements over when we first started – but nothing that is an ‘a-ha! moment’ where it just ‘clicks’ for them. But homeschooling is nothing if not try, try, try again, and so the search continues. I found something new that I will be implementing with the boys when we start again in January and I thought I’d share.

It is actually an idea that I found in a video, from a Pinterest pin on writing and hand-lettering for art journal purposes. The video used Photoshop and a purchased font to create what is essentially a worksheet for the author to print and trace in order to learn a new style of hand-lettering. But I thought the same technique would work well for improving handwriting (only simplified quite a bit). For example, you can create a new MSWord.docx or other word processing program and use a very light font color. That would be the easiest way to achieve the same effect.

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What you end up with is a page they can trace over. This picture is a sample of what that can look like; for ‘real’ use, I’d probably either type it or have them type it first, then trace. The font in this sample page is called Architect’s Daughter, and I downloaded it from DaFont.com (free for personal use). I also like a script font called Gruenewald VA – it is visually similar to what my boys are used to from HWT.

The reason I an sharing this is because I wanted to reassure other moms with older homeschooled kids (especially boys) out there that you’re not the only ones that struggle with legible handwriting! It’s something I am constantly harping on. If you’ve read here before, I often refer to myself as a ‘mean’ homeschooling mom, because I do make my kids erase and re-write thing that are hard to read. Our rule is, ‘If I can’t read it, I can’t assess your progress; ergo, you must re-write it’. Also, “Mom’s not going to go blind trying to decode these marks into words. Just NO.” And, “Are these words?!? In English??” and “Are you kidding me??? O_o” Sometimes, I change the wording.

In any case, I have dreams of one day having beautifully hand-written notebooks from my kids, but for now, I will settle for ‘legible’ and call it progress well-done!

Care to share your tips for handwriting help?

Warmly,
~h

 

Holiday Cheer!

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I was feeling Christmas early this year. We were all sick through Halloween, so my holiday season has felt ‘just out of reach’ this year. Once we passed Thanksgiving, I was ready for double-Christmas! So we cleared out the holiday boxes and got the tree set up. I love having the tree in the middle of the living room. It’s definitely in the way, but it’s so bright and pretty – we can live with it for such a short time.

Our tradition has been to get an ornament each year. We get a ‘family’ ornament, and a ‘personal’ ornament. The family ornament is in a theme – this year, it’s gnomes (although only the kids got gnome ornaments – Loverly Husband and I both got glass ones). In the past, we’ve done snowmen, Santa, reindeer, robots, gingerbread… all kinds of things. For the ‘personal’ ornaments, though, I was feeling a little more crafty, so we did salt-dough ornaments!

I found a recipe online that was 1c. salt, 1c. flour, and 1/2c. (ish) of water. I doubled the recipe, and tried to dissolve the salt in the water to see if that would give us a little bit smoother texture, and it wasn’t great,. but it turned out okay. It’s not like ‘cold porcelain’ clay (which is baking soda/baking powder kind), but it did form and roll well, and the ornaments held their shape, and are nice and solid (we dried them in the oven overnight on low, low heat).

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CAM01307Our homeschool group has been hard at play, too – we had a ‘winter craft day’ last week, and our Christmas party today. The last few months, the moms in our group have planned some absolutely amazing group events! The kids got to exchange board games, which was a nice change from toys that end up broken or lost within a couple of weeks. We LOVE games and have an extensive collection in the school room. Our current favorite is ‘Scattergories’, though ‘Balderdash’ will always be my personal favorite (aside from Cards Against Humanity, of course).

We’re out of school now – closing our 4th year of homeschooling! It’s been quite the journey so far, and I can’t wait to see what 2015 has in store!
Happy holidays!!

Warmly,
~h

 

Go With The Flow

When it comes to establishing habits and patterns in your life, experts will say that you have to do it consistently for anywhere from 2 weeks to one month for it to become your new normal. While there may be some grain of truth to that, I think there’s more to it than just committing to something new for a while and expecting the new thing(s) to magically become ‘how you are’. Particularly  when it comes to making changes to habits that you’re pre-disposed to having or that you’ve had for years, or doing something totally new in your life that also works against your nature.

For example, homeschooling.

For many of us, taking on the full responsibility of educating our kids is a new thing. If you had a child in school, then going from being the mom who gets the kids up, fed, packed and out the door to school everyday, to being the parent who gets to revel in the first (or third) cuppa long before the kids get out of bed seems like a luxury. And it is, don’t get me wrong! But all too easily, in even the strictest of homeschooling homes, ‘relaxing’ can go too far. To be fair, so can rigidity – but this post isn’t really about how relaxed or rigid your homeschooling style is. It’s about moving from your reality to a space that is more in line with your ideal (provided your ideal is at least somewhat realistic).

Lots of parents, when they first start homeschooling, have this vision of educational perfection in their heads. I am not excluded from this misty-eyed vision of homeschool naiveté; it’s such a great fantasy! But that fantasy rarely takes into account your level of introductory excitement vs. your maintained enthusiasm. It also rarely takes into account the family’s routines and patterns.

‘What is she talking about?!’, you’re probably wondering. Hang in there – I’m getting to the point, I promise!

So, as a new homeschooling parent, you may have this vision of greeting the sun, coffee in hand, with snuggly children all around you. The sun rises, the birds sing, the children yawn and stretch and get ready for the day. While you gather your materials, they brush teeth and finish breakfast and everyone gathers at your knee to  start their daily lessons, while you (indulgently) pat them on the head and offer gentle re-directions and instructions as needed. The little darlings are blissed out, understanding their privileged state of learning at home, and showing deep respect and appreciation for the time and effort that their dear mother puts into finding the right curriculum and materials and blah, blah, blah… you get the picture.

Only to find out, disturbingly, that instead of this beautiful fantasy, you end up with a life that looks more like the after picture in this equation and wondering what the heck you did wrong.

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So what’s the trick? How do you go from your frazzled reality to a more peaceful new world? More importantly, how do you get started in such a way that you don’t automatically fail after a week?

The answer to both questions is ‘go with the flow’. What I mean by that, is to plan on a routine or schedule that flows within your already established patterns. If you’re not a morning person, then creating a schedule that requires you to be up with the sun is probably not going to be realistic. It’s easy to plan on paper – but when we have an ideal that doesn’t reflect the reality of our lives, instead of making adjustments and keeping that momentum going, all too often, we chalk it up to failure and nothing gets done that day….or week, or month. While ‘try again tomorrow’ is a good theory, it only works if tomorrow’s plan is better than today’s, and being creatures of habit, we rarely take the time to analyze what went wrong today and make changes (that we implement) for tomorrow.  

If your patterns run toward more productivity in the afternoon, it may be wise to schedule a lazier morning and have your more in-depth studies later in the day. However, if you notice that your precious little darlings work better in the mornings, it may be necessary to work towards making an earlier start. This may take some time to accomplish, but it’s worth it if it’s what your kids need.

I notice that, in my family, none of us are ‘morning people’, however when it comes to schoolwork, if we are up by 8AM and start school by 9AM, the day seems to be more productive overall. If we wait until 10 or 11 to get started, then it’s like pulling teeth all day to get their work accomplished. This sucks for me, because I could win sleep marathons if there was such a thing; no time is better for sleeping, in my opinion, than between 4AM and 11AM. MY most productive time is typically between about 11PM and 2AM. But my kids are not that way, so I’ve had to make adjustments to ensure that we get at least a couple of days during the week where we are up early and working earlier in the day.

So how do you make those changes? Small steps add up to big ones. Start small – it may be a matter of slowly adjusting your schedule over the course of weeks or months to get where you want to be. You could take a different approach and designate one or two days as ‘this’ schedule, and one or two days as ‘that’ schedule. We tend to take the second approach; one day home, one day out. One day early, one day later. It works for us because it doesn’t require the odious task of making a permanent change that contradicts my personal needs (or desires, if you wanna get technical about it. Habits… how’s that?).

Another facet of ‘going with the flow’ is your ability to put in the time and effort – meaning, in short, homeschooling is hard. And time-consuming. And HARD for the parent. It’s much more-so if you choose to construct your syllabus, rather than rely on a boxed curriculum. Much of your free time is eaten up with school planning and studying so that you can provide for your kids. Realistically, after a couple of years, that gets old. Your eventual need for a break can outweigh your intent, and there’s no shame in acknowledging that. Implementing a change that helps the situation is better than dealing with burnout (which can last a long time).

I’m talking about getting help with school. If you can outsource in any way – whether that’s just having Dad (or Mom if you’re a homeschooling Pop), or Grandma or Grandpa or a homeschooling friend or co-op or community lessons or a tutoring center … if you can lighten your load, then don’t be afraid to take advantage of those resources. Some of them are costly, and for many (us, included) that takes them off the table – but some solutions just take effort to implement! A mini-co-op, for example: choose one or two days a week and one or two friends who have strengths in subjects you’re weaker in and school together. There are many free online resources that can lighten your load as well.

This year is the first year that I am out-sourcing some of the kids’ work – and ‘lo, it is *glorious*.  Math is not my favorite subject, and it’s my weakest subject, both for my own skills and my ability and confidence to teach, so we outsourced it this year. Having Maths off my plate to plan and teach has relived SO MUCH of my stress – I can’t even tell you. I’m not totally un-involved; we’re using Khan Academy, and we all have accounts. I ‘play’ too, and we compete. I brush up on my skills, learn new things, have my finger on the pulse of their lesson and it’s fun, too. But being able to oversee, rather than instruct has made this year so much more enjoyable for me (and less stressful).

Another way to ‘go with the flow’ involves maintaining the connection and relationship and communication you have with your child(ren). Successful homeschooling is a two-way street; it involves the kids just as much as the parents. Some days, the vibe is just ‘off’ and as any seasoned homeschooling parent can tell you, it’s far better to reschedule the day than it is to try to force something that’s going to make everyone miserable. I tend to build in ‘slacker’ days on our schedule so that we can either take that day with a lighter load, or play catch up if we needed that slack earlier. It all evens out in the end, and makes for much more harmonious days as we go.

So what are your tips and tricks for ‘going withe the flow’?
Warmly,
~h

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